A Big Decision

You know the song, "Its been a long time..." well that kind of describes how long its been since either of us have published. You would think that with E and FD living back in the Midwest and working in the same town with FD's goal to move to E's town we'd find the time to post. That hasn't been the case--life has been happening at a rapid rate with lots of stuff just falling into place. FD took a new job, moved home, and within a few months of new job was given a promotion. Now she's trying to find a place to rent--a pain to do when you have a dog, and the recent natural disaster in a close location hasn't helped her cause. Everything has seemed to fall into place so she's hoping this will as well.

E made the decision to start the journey to mommydom....and no there's not a guy in the picture. She's learned that maybe she's not meant to be with someone, at least right now. Online dating, meeting people through mutual friends/acquaintances, and even dating someone from her hometown (all in the space of the year) has yet again failed. E has prayed, talked to people, and researched the steps to take. She goes for her first consultation next week.

Two people, two big decisions--here's hoping 2014 is the year of BIG--and in good ways!

Complete or incomplete?

Recently, I was asked by a co-worker what it would take to make my life complete. I didn't quite no how to respond, I mean my life complete enough as it is. I think they were getting at the "enough" part of my statement. Being single isn't a "state of being" its just a type of life style that a lot of people don't understand. Its like we are these species that don't fit into a mold when really we are living our lives to the best of our ability. So when my co-worker asked me how to be complete, I thought about the things on my wish list is different than FD's. Upon a lot of reflection and attending vespers and having to think about clarity and direction I would say: teacher, nurturer, mentor, mother, lover, compassionate, and empathetic. The list isn't exhaustive and its not all inclusive. That being said I know what I want--I don't know how I'll get there but sometimes I think of the Trace Adkins' Song "You're Gonna Miss This." (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lBDN8yWyNYU) I know that as my life changes, I will miss being a single 30 something. In the mean time I wouldn't say my life is incomplete but really a work in progress--hey, it might be messy but at least I'm trying. I have a sense of completeness because of the things I do the relationships I have and the effort I've made with others.